Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. It includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological preparation for sex, anticipation of pleasure, and the body's immediate physiological response. It is useful for every woman to know how this process occurs in boys and how to speed up awakening.
Where does it all begin?
Arousal is triggered by various sensory stimuli. The girl's smell, kisses and touches, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers in the brain that transmit signals to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. American sexologist and the 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Gender Studies. John Bancroft claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of arousal of a man. This is the result of a study, the results of which were published in the article "Endocrinology of Sexual Arousal" in the Journal of Endocrinology.
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. Muscles contract and prevent venous flow, as a result of which the penis becomes rigid, enlarges (on average 3-4 times) and pulsation is felt. Often such a reaction occurs within a few seconds after sexual stimulation. It is interesting that during foreplay, the erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20, 000 men. Their genitals were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it was found that the size of the average penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection is 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them - at night (spontaneous) - occurs without intercourse. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord and then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - caused by touching the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and the skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and bleeding to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's heart rate increases, his breathing increases, and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum thickens and may become tight, and the testicles become elevated. The upper body turns a little red. A lubricating fluid is released that facilitates the passage of the sperm through the canal.
What attracts men?
In addition to a beautiful picture (naked woman or dressed in lace underwear, dancing, seductively lying, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it so that the arousal is as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay usually starts with a kiss. A girl's passionate kiss can already cause an erection and put a guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings in the lips, in addition, they feel the sex of their partner and wait for the upcoming sex. At this time, you can touch the occipital area with your hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like to have their ears kissed and bitten, but you have to be careful with this, as there are those who strongly dislike this process.
The lower abdomen is a great place for pre-oral caresses (below the navel). Suitable for back erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair and bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual arousal in men. You should be careful of sudden movements, children may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the partner's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be stroked with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited very quickly. But it takes more time (from several hours to a day) than women to rest and fully recover after sex, because the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, re-sexual arousal may not happen quickly in all men, and this should be approached with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you are excited first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a question that is little known to most people. What does science say? He considers arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, its first stage. That is, a whole series of processes. There are no gender differences in them: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and gases, as well as the formation of nipples.
Psychological behavior, gaze and voice change with sexual arousal. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act like drugs on the body. In men, in addition to the above, the erection of the genital organ, the rise of the testicle to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the separation of pre-ejaculation for the oiling of the head are observed.
In women, additional fat occurs, thinning or vice versa growth of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth), clitoral erection, lifting and growth of the uterus, tension and growth of the pubosacral muscles. the length of the vagina.
By the way, if reddening of the skin is rarely observed in men, blood flow in women occurs not only to the clitoris and labia, but also to the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so noticeable that the area between the chest, shoulders and neck may even turn red during and after orgasm.
Why is there so much reaction? They are associated with the body's readiness for the second stage of the cycle of blood flow and sexual reactions - sexual intercourse - to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals. The arousal phase is followed by the plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase, and the completion phase of sexual responses.
The awakening phase may not occur. This is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is not sufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
Erectile dysfunction in most men is associated with an organic form due to various diseases. The most common reasons for this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormonal levels are disturbed.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking some drugs, especially drugs that affect the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow to the pelvic organs weakens, so the main reaction of sexual arousal in a man does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol, and smoking affect not only the physical but also the psychological state, so impotence changes from an organic form to a mixed form. You can't delay this situation, it can be easily fixed first. You should see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men have sex more often than orgasm. Long-term abstinence can seriously damage the body in general and the genitals in particular. The favorite slogan of women "we will excite you and not let you" is good in moderation - you should not overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction affects not only physical, but also mental health. A man becomes angry, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how it is achieved - during intercourse or masturbation.